Almost everyday we deal with people either at work or in a social gathering. Some people can really bother and annoy you or stress you out. They can be business associates, fellow colleagues, friends, or even family members and relatives. Here are few key tips to deal with these personalities.
1. Don’t expect others to change, you can only change yourself
The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you react to it. You can try to change others, but there are very less chances of getting success.
2. Draw your boundaries
Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate — then stick with it. If you don’t do so, it’s easy for you to be pushed over by others.
3. Be upfront about where you stand
People aren’t mind readers, and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space or taking up a lot of your time. Let people know your schedule at the start of the conversation. This will help finish the task within stipulated time frame.
4. Be firm when needed
If the person does not stick within the boundaries, then enforce them. Give a gentle reminder at first. If he/she still does not get the hint, then make the point clear. It may take time initially but will be helpful in a long run.
5. Ignore them
If you just ignore them, they don’t have a choice but to seek out someone else. However, don’t ignore all the time to keep the relation alive.
6. Don’t take it personally
Most of the times, these people behave the same way...
around others too. My boss is very criticizing, initially I was pretty upset, but now I realized that he treats others the same way.
7. Observe how others handle them
The next time you are with this person, get someone else into the conversation too. Observe how the other party handles it. It’s a great learning.
8. Show kindness
Often times, they act the way they do because they are looking for an empathetic ear.
9. Help them
Beneath the facade is really a cry for help. Check with them if they need any help, or if there is anything you can do to help them. This makes relationship healthy.
Dealing with different personalities, especially difficult ones is challenging task. Try the suggested tips, but I would say don’t restrict yourself. Human behavior is difficult to predict and only experience can help you in dealing with various persons.